Understanding Suicidality: 9 Things Worth Keeping in Mind

Suicidality is a profoundly sensitive and complex topic that demands our utmost compassion and understanding. If you or someone you know is grappling with suicidal thoughts or feelings, it is crucial to reach out for help and seek the support you deserve. In this compassionate exploration, we want to emphasize a few essential thoughts to keep in mind.

1. Suicidality is a symptom, not a flaw

It is vital to remember that suicidality is not a character flaw or a sign of weakness. It is a symptom of profound emotional pain and suffering that goes beyond what words can express. Those who experience these thoughts are battling an internal storm that is often hidden from the world.

2. A cry for relief, not death

Many individuals who grapple with suicidal thoughts do not desire death. Instead, they long for a way to escape their pain and suffering. It is a plea for relief, for respite from the unrelenting anguish that can feel all-encompassing.

3. Open conversations reduce stigma

The stigma surrounding suicide can be isolating and can deepen feelings of shame. It is essential to recognize that it is okay to talk about suicide openly and honestly. These conversations can dismantle the stigma and help individuals feel heard, understood, and less alone.

4. Suicide is preventable

Suicide is not inevitable. There are resources available to help people who are struggling with suicidal thoughts and feelings. Crisis hotlines, support groups, and mental health professionals are there to provide the support and care that can make a difference.

5. Take every mention seriously

Any mention of suicide, even seemingly vague statements like “I just wish I could disappear,” should be taken seriously. It is crucial to check in with the person and help ensure their safety. Showing that you care can be a lifeline in their darkest moments.

6. Asking about suicidal thoughts is safe

Contrary to the myth that asking about suicide might plant the idea, it can actually be a crucial step in helping someone who is struggling. It can open up a conversation about their feelings, encourage them to share their pain, and show them they are not alone.

7. Recovery is possible

Recovery from suicidal thoughts and feelings is not only possible, it is a reality for many people who receive the right support. With the right care, people can learn to manage their pain, regain their hope, and look forward to a brighter future.

8. Self-care for caregivers

Supporting someone who is experiencing suicidality can be emotionally draining. It is essential to practice self-care and compassion for yourself too. Leaning on your own support network, setting boundaries, and seeking professional guidance are all ways to make sure you can keep offering help.

9. A shared issue that calls for community

Suicide is a public health concern that knows no boundaries of age, gender, race, or background. It is an issue that calls for a united community effort to raise awareness and support one another.

Warning signs to watch for

There is no single sign, but it is worth paying closer attention, and checking in directly, if you notice someone:

• Talking about wanting to die, being a burden, or having no reason to live
• Withdrawing from friends, family, and the things they used to care about
• Deep hopelessness, or unbearable emotional pain
• Big changes in mood, sleep, or behavior
• Increased use of alcohol or drugs
• Giving away belongings or saying goodbye as if for the last time

If you notice these, do not wait. Ask directly, stay with them, and reach out to 988 or emergency services if there is any immediate danger.

How we help

At Concord Family Counseling in Brentwood, we offer a safe and compassionate space for individuals and families to work through pain, build coping strategies, and rediscover hope. If you or someone you love is struggling, you do not have to go through it alone. Learn more about counseling for teens and family counseling at our practice. If you are worried about a child, our post on recognizing depression in kids may help you understand what you are seeing.

Common questions

Is it safe to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide?
Yes. Asking does not plant the idea. It often brings relief and opens a door, letting the person know they can talk about their pain and are not alone.

What should I do if my teen mentions suicide?
Take it seriously, every time. Stay calm, listen without judgment, ask directly whether they are thinking about suicide, and do not leave them alone if there is immediate risk. Call or text 988, and reach out to their doctor or emergency services as needed.

What are the warning signs of suicide?
Talking about wanting to die or being a burden, withdrawal, hopelessness, big changes in mood or behavior, increased substance use, and giving away belongings. Any of these is a reason to check in directly.

Where can I get help right now?
Call or text 988 any time, text HOME to 741741 for the Crisis Text Line, or, for LGBTQ youth, contact The Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.

Lydia Thompson, LPC-MHSP, is a licensed therapist and the owner of Concord Family Counseling in Brentwood, Tennessee.